My daughter is having a formal 5:00 wedding. She is wearing a long gown and the men will be in tuxedos. The bridesmaids are wearing cocktail length dresses that are purple with a lighter color purple trim. I always thought that I “knew” the MOB should NOT wear the same color as the bridesmaids. However, now, after finally finding the perfect dress(long) – the only two colors that it comes in that work for me are black and eggplant (I can’t wear pastels without looking
completely washed out.) The “eggplant” is very similar to the main color of the girls’ dresses. I absolutely love the dress in the eggplant color. I can’t find it anywhere in town or on a website to see how it looks in black. When I expressed my dismay about the color, I was told by the people in the bridal store that the MOB and/or MOG are frequently dressed in the same color as the bridal party. When I talked about it at work, again I was encouraged to go with the eggplant since the style is
so different from the girls. When consulting a book on the subject, it said it was not mandatory that the MOB wear the same color as the bridal party (which made it sound OK to do so). I almost had myself convinced that the eggplant would be OK until I came across your website! My daughter said the decision is up to me. However, you all seem so adamantly opposed to the idea of the MOB wearing the same color as the bridesmaids. HELP! Any chance you can attach pictures of the bridesmaids dress and your dress w/color swatch? Eggplant and Purple are not the same colors. You have to compare swatches to make sure the colors are not identical, which I am sure they aren’t. In that case, go ahead with the color you like! Thanks for the
quick response. I’m attaching a file that has a picture of my dress (Montage) and a picture of the bridesmaids dress (Eden) along with the color swatches. I don’t have a color swatch for my dress, but you can see a very small sample of the color. The main color shown in the bridesmaid dress in the attachment is the same color the girls will be wearing, although the contrast color is a little different (more silvery lavender than the lavender pictured here). My daughter had color swatches with
her when we went shopping for my dress and the dark color of the girls’ dresses is nearly identical to the eggplant of my dress. Image2.png Attached Files Attached File Montage.doc 300.5KB 663 downloads Rebecca Black, Etiquette By RebeccaI’m surprised that you are finding that information in etiquette books. Mothers shouldn’t be dressed in the same color as the bridesmaids because they might appear as if they are one. They should blend, though, without being dressed more formally than them. The color of your dress isn’t purple. So, that’s great. The only issue I can see is that it may be much too formal. You’d have to decide that for yourself by comparing the two. Your child’s wedding is a source of great joy, no matter what your side of the aisle is. However, it can also be a source of stress, especially when it comes to choosing the attire. Of course, you want to feel and look great on this occasion. Mother of the groom dresses should complement mother of the bride dresses, but not be entirely dictated by them. Here are some rules and guidelines to assist you. Color: Who Coordinates with Whom?Traditionally, the mother of the bride has been the first to choose her dress. The color of the mother of the groom’s dress should complement, but not match it. This is easier than it sounds because no two hues are exactly alike. To augment the distinction, you can choose different accessories. It’s best to stay away from white or any shade matching the dress of the bride unless you have her explicit consent. The good news is that MOB and MOG dresses are not relegated to the realm of boring colors any more. Before you start shopping for a dress, talk to the couple about what their bridesmaids will be wearing and what color scheme they are planning in general. They might not be comfortable with certain colors, like black. Do ask because there’s no rule to avoid black at a wedding. It is even encouraged at highly formal ones.  Consider the Level of FormalityOn that note, make sure the MOB and MOG dresses correspond to the level of formality of the wedding. A less formal dress would be appropriate at a casual wedding. Summer dresses are welcome at seaside weddings. You won’t go wrong with a formal dress in a color like navy for an evening wedding. The MOG’s dress style and length should be similar, but not exactly the same as the length and style of the MOB’s dress. “Elegant” and “comfortable” are key concepts. There are a lot of formal and elegant, yet chic options. MOB and MOG: Rules?Generally, the same set of rules is followed when choosing MOB and MOG dresses except for the traditional notion that the mother of the bride should buy her dress first. This rule is not very strict. However, a brief conversation about the tone of the attire between the mother of the groom and the mother of the bride is in order. Avoid Overdressing or ClashingThe point of coordinating the dresses is to avoid garish color combos like red and green or overdressing. After all, nobody would want such faux pas immortalized on wedding photos. Discussing ideas in advance will also help prevent one mother dressing far more or less formally than the other. The bride and groom are encouraged to facilitate communication between them and provide guidance. Shades of nude and blush are popular color choices. The bride can give her mother and soon-to-be mother-in-law ideas on style, color, length, or formality without insisting they wear something she specifies. These distinguished wedding guests should feel comfortable in their attire, as, indeed, all wedding guests should. On the other hand, it would be unfortunate if one or both mothers chose an incongruent style or color scheme. A friendly talk beforehand would prevent this. It can happen that the MOB and the MOG end up with almost identically colored dresses. This might be by chance or on purpose. Asking one of them to exchange or return her dress would be impolite, and quite unreasonable if her dress cannot be returned. In this case, they should focus on getting completely different accessories (or at least as different as possible) – different colors and styles of handbags, shoes, jewelry, etc. Mother of the Bride Dress - TipsAlways take the venue, dress code, and time of day into account. Semi-formal and cocktail weddings are more casual and a cocktail-style or tea-length dress may be suitable, while formal white tie and black tie weddings will require a full-length or even floor-length gown. Dressing too sexy might make the couple or other guests feel awkward. On this note, avoid plunging V-necks, thigh-high slits, cutouts, and lace-up details. Go for traditional and elegant instead of ultramodern and overexposed. If you found a dress you love, but you’re not sure about the neckline, don’t take chances and wear a jacket or shawl. Mother of the Groom Dress - TipsThe same as above applies with a few additional considerations. It’s best to start looking for a dress around six months before the wedding. At that point, you should at least have a general idea of what type and color of dress the mother of the bride has bought or is planning on buying. After all, you want to make sure you have enough time if you need alterations made. Black and white weddings are becoming increasingly popular because of their simplicity. Sometimes an accent color is featured, like teal or deep purple. You could opt for a dress in black or the accent color. Often, deep-toned, dark attire will be suitable. Ask your future daughter-in-law if she has any preferences or recommendations based on what her mother has chosen. A couple might opt for multi-color or splashes of color at their wedding. All guests will then be wearing different colors. Again, the same principle applies: the MOG asks the MOB about what the latter will wear and chooses a dress in a complementing color. Even colors like electric green or bright blue are appropriate at “rainbow” weddings. At an event with pastel tones, the MOG wouldn’t go wrong with periwinkle or soft violet. Enjoy the Magical Experience!For the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom, enjoying this special event is ultimately more important than dress etiquette. It’s an added bonus if the bride and groom love your dress! Feel free to read our other articles on dressing for a wedding for more great ideas. What color does mother of the groom usually wear?If your wedding is a formal one, some mothers of the groom might prefer to wear shades of gold, dark silver, or even black. Other darker colors that might be worn include shades of : Navy.
Does the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom wear the same color dress?Color: Who Coordinates with Whom? Traditionally, the mother of the bride has been the first to choose her dress. The color of the mother of the groom's dress should complement, but not match it. This is easier than it sounds because no two hues are exactly alike.
What color should the mother of the groom not wear?Because the mother of the groom isn't part of the bridal party, she should avoid choosing a dress in the same color as the bridesmaids' attire, the mother of the bride's dress, or the wedding gown.
What does the mother of the groom normally wear?Elegant evening gowns, lace midi dresses and chic jumpsuits are all appropriate options for moms. The mother of the groom dress should also follow the wedding dress code. Formal weddings require an upscale dress or pantsuit, while the outfit can be more relaxed for a casual wedding.
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